Whenever we get to the holidays, there's always the chance that there will be people who are going through a season of firsts. These are the things that come up in life and are happening for the first time since a loved one's passing, like having an empty spot at the dining room table. It’s disorienting, and we may find ourselves feeling like we’d rather not celebrate.
It's really hard to know what to do when you're going through something for the first time. It's kind of like being in a choir with a new piece of sheet music, and not knowing how to sing the song. Even if you are familiar with reading music, the first time through is rough. That's what it's like when you're going through a season of firsts because of changes in your life due to grief. Those firsts are unfamiliar and challenging.
The empty chair at the dining room table is one of several adjustments when we are trying to learn how to live without someone that we've had in our world for so long that they’re woven into the fabric of our soul. There are birthdays, anniversaries, and even first-time medical challenges without our beloveds by our sides. Even if we were expecting their passing, there is an adjustment period that takes time and takes us through a transition that is stunning at times, and tender at others.
This episode examines three things to consider when you're going through a season of firsts.